Specialist inclusive therapy for individuals, couples, and intimate partnered relationships experiencing sexual difficulties, disconnection, conflict, betrayal or the effects of trauma
Where psychotherapy meets sexology, because understanding changes everything
Clinical sexology | Relationship therapy | Trauma and EMDR
You may be here because something no longer feels right
You and your partner feel more like roommates. The same argument keeps coming back. You've discovered something that has shaken your trust and caused doubts. Or perhaps sex has become the difficult bit.
"Is there something wrong with me?"
"Why don't I want sex any more?"
"Why am I anxious about sex when I want to enjoy it?"
"Why does penetration hurt?"
"Why can I get an erection on my own but not with my partner?"
"I don't know who I am any more."
"Why do I keep doing something sexual that I said I'd stop doing?"
These aren't easy questions to ask out loud. You might also be trying to understand your sexuality, fantasies, kink, substance use, or what kind of relationship you want. Sometimes all you know is "Something's not working, and I don't know why", and that's enough to start with.
I'm here to help
To find out more, have a free 15-minute consultation or book an appointment, get in touch here.
What do you need help with?
Anxiety & Panic
Overwhelmed by worry and fear? Not sure why your heart is racing, your breathing is out of sync, and you have an urge to leave places that used to feel safe?
Anxiety is a natural response to threats, which is helpful when we are in danger as it keeps us safe. We may feel worried or nervous about an event that is coming up, and a little anxiety can help us prepare for stressful situations.
However, our brain doesn't know the difference between actual or perceived threats, and this higher level of anxiety can negatively impact daily life.
If you're struggling and would like help or to learn more, I can provide effective strategies to manage anxiety, helping you regain control of your life and find peace amidst the chaos.
Some of the symptoms of anxiety include
- Unease
- Avoiding places/situations
- Constantly scanning body, thoughts, and feelings for signs of danger
- Googling symptoms
- Feeling dizzy
- Feeling jittery or on edge
Depression
Are you feeling trapped in a cycle of sadness? I offer support and guidance to help you navigate depression, rediscover joy, and build resilience for a brighter future.
Therapy can help to identify the underlying causes or triggers of your depressive symptoms. This may involve exploring past experiences, current stressors, and patterns of thinking that contribute to your distress. Going to therapy gives you a space to be heard, to be you as you are, and a place to be emotionally held.
This helps you understand yourself and your emotions, facilitating growth, alleviating emotional distress, and building coping strategies.
Trauma
Trauma can leave lasting emotional impacts, affecting daily life. EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) is an evidence-based therapy that helps reprocess traumatic memories, reduce distress and promote healing for a healthier future. EMDR can help with the following;
- Panic Attacks
- Traumatic grief
- PTSD/C-PTSD
- Dissociation
- Numb/Detached
- Avoidance
- Hyperarousal/Anxiety
- Looking out for danger
- Alcohol/Substance use
- Flashbacks
- Medical trauma
Sex Therapy & Relationship Support
Are you struggling with intimacy or relationship challenges? Maybe you're a couple who need help navigating a betrayal.
I specialise in sex, relationships and identity, and we'll work together to unpick what's really going on beneath the surface so you can stop repeating old patterns and start building the relationship, with yourself or others, that you actually want. I run a sex-positive practice, and some of the difficulties that bring people to my practice are;
- Lack of connection
- Neurodivergent relationships
- Conflict
- Sex and drugs, Chemsex
- Prescribed drugs impact on sex and arousal (Opioids, Antidepressants etc)
- Erection difficulties
- Premature/Early Ejaculation
- Delayed Ejaculation
- Low Desire
- Pain & Penetration Problems
- Vaginismus
- Menopause
- Cancer and sex
- Anxiety around sex & intimacy
- Sexuality and orientation
- Identity
- Communication differences
- Opening/Ending relationships
- Difficulty with orgasms
- Ethical non-monogamy
- Polyamory
- Post-affair recovery
- Betrayal
For support with any of the issues above, or anything else you may be struggling with, contact Sidcup and South East Counselling today.
Get in Touch
Contacting me does not mean you have to start therapy. Share what feels comfortable. A couple of sentences about what you would like help with is enough.
I normally reply within 48 working hours. We can then arrange a 15-minute consultation via phone or Zoom so you can ask questions and decide if you would like to continue.
If you haven't received a reply within 48 hours, please check your junk folder and feel free to follow up.
Please note this is not an emergency number. Should you require immediate help, please call Samaritans at 116123, NHS Direct at 111, or visit your local Accident and Emergency.
My location
Sidcup and South East London Counselling Service is a private counselling and therapy practice based in Sidcup. It is within easy reach of Bexley, Greenwich, Bromley, Dartford, New Eltham, Welling, Bexleyheath, Plumstead and Eltham in South East London, City of London and Kent. Located on the B13, 286 and 51 bus route and with easy access to the A2 and A20.
The nearest train stations are New Eltham and Sidcup.
Fees & availability
Individual sessions are £80
Couples/ Intimate partners £120
Clinical supervision: £60 per hour for trainees; your hourly rate for qualified therapists
Limited availability.
You may not know it, but you’ve already taken the first step...
It can be scary and confusing making the decision to contact a counsellor or therapist, but in my experience people will struggle with a mental health issue, a personal crisis or problems with a relationship for much longer than is healthy. Sometimes a friend has proved a source of comfort, but this help can only go so far. Realising that resolving a problem requires something more means you have actually already taken the first step towards improving your life.